The Ups and Downs of Happyness

Comparisons… We do it all the time, those fleeting thoughts that flicker through our mind every day, almost without us noticing. The big ones though really bring us up short, snap us to attention and fester away for ages. As years go by some of us change shape, the sprinkle of grey appears, the laughter lines become deeper, need I go on.

I had a super fun evening recently with some lovely friends. Our age ranges from 55 to 70. Some of us literally haven’t changed a bit, the photos over the years have frozen in time for them, others however have varied in their weight and hairstyle.  At the end of the evening the cameras came out and pics were gaily taken. Is it true that the camera never lies?????  Unfortunately, I was sitting at the end of the table nearest the photographer: Arghhhh to my dismay I looked terrible, who is this stranger staring back at me?! Immediately I compared my self to the others… swore to go on a fresh air diet, cut my hair, put a bag on my head, the mental list went on…

So waking up the next morning what was my Happyness level  – minus 10, mirrors were avoided as I scurried to work.  At the end of the day I popped into town to buy some euros. The assistant asked if I was going away, no I said, they were for my son. We chatted a bit and she eventually asked if I was accompanying  him and how old was he.  When I replied she paused and said that she didn’t believe that I could have a son that age. I was flabbergasted, Happyness levels restored, I sucked my stomach in, held my head up high as I walked out the door grinning from ear to ear.

Was that good customer service or a genuine comment, who knows. Nevertheless  the kindness of a stranger certainly worked wonders for me.

By |2017-01-13T13:49:31+00:00April 21st, 2016|Tags: |1 Comment

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"Hi I’m Dena. I have worked in the same company for many years in a variety of roles and am now in a dual role of health and safety and assistant to the company secretary. I have been interested in holistic therapies for many years, and as I am qualified to practise in a few, it would be good to re-engage again with the calm and balance that they bring, and of course to increase my everyday Happyness! When I saw on Sally’s email asking for Happynesshubbers I thought what a good idea, but knowing me thought that I wouldn’t be able to commit to looking at all the emails for three weeks and finding time to go online and blog as I haven’t done it before. I know it only takes a few moments of the day, as I did dip in and out last time, and enjoyed the ones I looked at. My son is Paul, another Happynesshub Hero, and he asked me about becoming a Happynesshub Hero too – I surprised myself when I said yes! I’m excited to have the possibility of committing to start this exciting journey and make it part of my everyday life."

One Comment

  1. Sallyann Keizer April 21, 2016 at 5:49 pm - Reply

    Oh Dena your last two posts have made me giggle! I hope you are having fun HH’ing! The real challenge in all of this is to ‘not compare’. I know it is so hard, and so tough, and I hate photos myself – but one small thing. The first day I recorded the films for you all I hated them. I said to Tim this looks wrong that looks wrong the other looks wrong. Basically I looked wrong. Now so many days in I just look at myself and go that’s me! I used to avoid all mirrors at all costs. Now I try to look at myself with kindness. And the more familiar I get the more accepting I become. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And for me it shines through someone’s eyes, as their heart glows forth. Big hugs beautiful Dena xx

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