Day 11 – Positive Speech

“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behaviour. Keep your behaviour positive because your behaviour becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.”

Mahatma Gandhi

Happynesshub Hint Eleven


When you are talking, be aware of your language. Shift it to focus on the positive. However unnatural this may feel, see if you can adjust your words to avoid all negativity. Give it a go for a day. Refrain from negative speech patterns and see if your day feels any different.

The Day 11 Film – Sally

Welcome to our Day 11 Happynesshub Hint Film with our very own Sally here to explain more about today’s exercise and fill you in on the nuts and bolts of how to get the most out of the day.

Welcome to our Day 11 Movement and Meditation Video, which features gentle breathing, stretching and meditation. If you have any health concerns, please consult your GP first. If you have a yoga mat that is helpful, otherwise please do not practise on a slippery surface.

If you would prefer to follow a shorter breathing and / or meditation film (with no stretching) please click here. Or if you want an audio meditation only, choose how long you have, then click and go!

“What a nightmare!” That was one of my favourite sayings for a long time (I even passed it on to my Mum!). Alongside, ”This is disastrous, horrific, horrendous.” “My day was just horrid”. This was the language I used to use on a daily basis, until I stumbled upon today’s work on positive speech. Everything in my language was dramatic and exaggerated. To be fair, there really had been a few nightmares, but these were now over; and there genuinely were many an horrific day – but this language had stuck and I was now using it inappropriately, frequently and to my own detriment.

It has been proven that positive words promote positive feelings, which in turn promote positive action. All of which aid improving well-being and increase happiness. Using negative language, including the word “No” (see our further research) has been shown to stimulate a particular part of the brain associated with negative emotions, motivating us to withdraw. Conversely, positive language stimulates a different area propelling the motivational centres of the brain into action.

So choose your words wisely. Try to consciously select the words you use to describe your emotional states. This will allow you to interrupt the brain’s propensity to be negative and you will most likely feel better. Instead of “angry” maybe try “peeved” (that word itself makes me smile!). For “worried” try substituting “concerned”. Or how about every time you say “I have to” or “I need to” using the words “I get to”. At first this one made me laugh, but today laid up in bed I’d be happy to say “I get to go to work” instead of “I have to go to work”!

Also look at how you CHOOSE to talk, and what you place attention on. Going back to Day 3’s Happynesshub Hint, Positive Focus, when I speak to my mum tonight there are two versions of my day I can recount:

“I felt so ill all day Mum. The antibiotics haven’t kicked in fully. My emails went down regularly and it was just a horrid day.”


“I am feeling better than yesterday Mum and the antibiotics have just started working. I had some lovely feedback from the Happynesshubbers about how the work is helping them, and I think I am going in the right direction.”

Neither story is untrue, it is where I choose to focus and what language I choose to use. But which conversation is likely to leave me feeling better?

So whether you are chatting with a colleague, in conversation with a loved one, or talking with your toddlers, observe your words today.

Have a positively articulate day!

Please click here for further research on Positive Speech.